Jeffrey P. Toczylowski
E-mail from Special Forces Capt. Jeffrey P. Toczylowski
This is an e-mail that Special Forces Capt. Jeffrey P. Toczylowski, 30, prepared in the event of his death. Toczylowski died during a combat mission in Iraq on November 3, 2005. His father, Philip M. Toczylowski, shared the e-mail. He and his wife, Margaret, live in Ambler, PA.
Dear friends and family,
If you are getting this email, it means that I have passed away. No, it’s not a sick Toz joke, but a letter I wanted to write in case this happened. Please don’t be sad for me. It was an honor to serve my country, and I wouldn’t change a thing. It was just my time.
Don’t ever think that you are defending me by slamming the Global War on Terrorism or the US goals in that war. As far as I am concerned, we can send guys like me to go after them or we can wait for them to come back to us again. I died doing something I believed in and have no regrets except that I couldn’t do more.
This will probably be the longest email most of you have ever received from me. More that one of you complained on multiple occasions about my brief emails.
I have requested to be buried in Arlington National Cemetery and would like you to attend, but I understand if you can’t make it.
There will also be a party in Vegas with a 100k to help pay for travel, room, and a party. I want you to be happy for the time we had, not the future we won’t.
Never regret not calling, writing enough, keeping in touch, or visiting. I was always away and thought of you all as much, if not more, than you thought of me. Time keeps rolling and so should my family and friends. The only thing I ask is that you toast me every so often, because you know I’ll be watching and wanting to be with you. Don’t spend any time crying for me, because I’ll bet you I am having a ball right now wherever I am.
I will look in on all of you and help whenever I can. I love you all!
Capt. Jeffrey P. Toczylowski, 30, a Special Forces detachment commander assigned to 1st Battalion, 10th Special Forces Group (Airborne) at Panzer Kaserne, Germany, was deployed in support of Operation Iraqi Freedom. He was seriously injured as a result of a fall from a helicopter during a combat infiltration. Toczylowski was airlifted to a military treatment facility where he was pronounced dead.
A native of Upper Moreland, Pa., Toczylowski was commissioned as a second lieutenant in 1995 through the Reserve Officer Training Corps program at Valley Forge Military College in Valley Forge, Pa.
Toczylowski arrived at 10th SFG (A) in May 2003.
His awards and decorations include the Army Commendation Medal, the Army Achievement Medal, the National Defense Service Medal, the Armed Forces Expeditionary Medal, the Global War on Terrorism Expeditionary Medal, the Global War on Terrorism Service Medal, the Army Service Ribbon, the Overseas Service Ribbon, the NATO Medal, the Parachutist Badge, and the Special Forces Tab.
Toczylowski is survived by his parents, Philip and Margret Toczylowski, of Upper Moreland, Pa.
Hello, my name is Richard States. Recently I read the e-mail your son sent to you. It was printed in my local newspaper. I cannot imagine the loss that you must be feeling and in the same way, how proud you must be. I would like to say that I am proud of him myself.
God Bless You and Thank You,
January 5, 2006